Days of Our Lives

This used to be my favourite soap opera during uni days. On days when I have no lectures or tutorials in school or days I could reach home before 1 o'clock in the afternoon, I never failed to turn on the TV to catch this dramatic and draggy US series.

If life is like "Days of Our Lives" or a TVB drama series, that would really be one big epic saga. Epic sagas, while enjoyable to watch in the fictitious world of television, are not the same fun when re-enacted in real life. Imagine being surrounded by drama kings and queens who make molehills out of nothing, create storms in a teacup, worse still, are scheming and backstab, and insist life is all about them. You could end up spending a large part of your life "suffering" under them in one way or another.

Life these days, has been exactly as I described earlier - just one big epic saga. Having spent my entire life in fear of incurring the wrath of a drama queen, I supposed I had enough. How often can one put up with that nonsense? How often can one tolerate those harsh words and cold stares? How often can one always take the first step to patch up? But most importantly, how can one really forgive and forget this time round?

Like a leopard who will never change its spots, a drama queen will forever be one. She is selfish, blames everyone for her unhappiness and failures and believes that she is the only creature worth paying attention to in this universe. She never reflects on her attitudes and behaviour, for it is always the fault of others, never hers. The day after the saga, she puts on the blackest of all faces simply to reiterate that stand. Everyone else reserves further comments - not because they believe she is right, but because they want to ease the tension. So the vicious cycle continues.

I feel lucky for these people if they have loved ones around them who could be slaves to their unreasonable demands. But I feel sorry for those loved ones for having to put up with the tiring dramas. She should find herself a "doormat" for I truly believe that is what she needs. Same applies to drama kings.

Experience taught me - there will never be an end. For as long as you give in to their whims and fancies, they will forever be the boss of you. The day you decided not to, there can only be two scenarios - one good and the other bad. Or if it's all too late, the outcome will just be bad.

My horoscope for June said, "You've outgrown certain habits, activities or people and need to let them go".

At the end of the day, I chose no longer to be a slave.